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Go Ahead, Congratulate the Newly Engaged!

Writing in Redbook magazine, Ashley Mateo recently pronounced, “I absolutely hate wishing people congratulations on their engagement, and I won’t do it anymore.” It’s a free country. Ms. Mateo, like everyone else, is entitled to speak (or not speak) as she likes. But let’s run through some of her objections to “congratulations,” a word most people would consider … Continue reading

We’re Still Waiting For A Better Memoir About Infertility

We have become a nation of oversharers. And yet, even in the Era of TMI, it’s rare for women—or couples—to broadcast their struggles with infertility. In this regard, the publishing world largely mimics real life. If you’ve been searching for a book that personalizes the excruciating pain of infertility or repeated pregnancy loss, you’ve likely … Continue reading

Why Do So Many People Wish I Was Pregnant with a Boy?

In an atomized and impersonal city, nothing motivates strangers to approach and talk to you quite like a pregnant belly. What’s more interesting is what people then say. Here in cosmopolitan DC, I fully expected to get an (unsolicited) earful about this child being one too many. For while it’s not the case at our … Continue reading

Finding Personal and Jewish Significance in ‘This is Us’

In watching the heart-wrenching pilot for NBC’s This is Us, I connected with Mandy Moore’s Rebecca Pearson. Hugely pregnant with triplets, Rebecca was a woman whose life is on the verge of transformation. I identified with Rebecca as a wife and mother, who also happens to be pregnant with my own third child. However, since then, … Continue reading

Words of Wisdom on Adoption

Are you considering adoption or fostering (potentially leading to adoption)? If you’re curious but don’t know where to start, here’s some collective wisdom from various experts I’ve interviewed in the course of researching adoption: Former Family Law Attorney in Florida Be persistent. Be an advocate for yourself. Know your rights. It’s well worth spending money … Continue reading

Jewish Adoption Embraces the World

What does a Jew look like? Woody Allen famously played with stereotypes in Hannah and Her Sisters, when his secular character imagined himself through others’ eyes, complete with a black hat and beard. Of course, there has never been one right answer to that question.  The American Jewish community has become ever more varied, as intermarriage, conversion … Continue reading

7 Ways the Third Pregnancy Is Different

Pregnancy is fairly predictable in some ways. Your belly grows. You become slower and more achey. And, pu pu pu, after nine months’ time, you’re cradling a tiny new person. Yet, it takes being pregnant at least twice to really appreciate the countless ways that pregnancies can vary. Now pregnant with our third daughter, I’m feeling not … Continue reading

A Rosh Hashanah Plea for More Conversation About Infertility

She laughed. When our matriarch Sarah heard that she would become a mother within the next year, she laughed. And who wouldn’t? The whole notion seemed drawn from the realm of fantasy. After all, Sarah was already 90-years-old. But as G-d rhetorically asks Abraham in Genesis 18:13, “Is anything beyond Hashem?” Pregnancy and (safe) childbirth … Continue reading

The “Brangelina” Break-up: Shocking or Predictable?

The Brangelina break-up is like the big earthquake that seismologists missed. Angelina Jolie serving Brad Pitt with divorce papers just two years into their marriage has sent shock waves through the entertainment and parenting press, inspiring panicked headlines like, “If Brad Pitt And Angelina Jolie Can’t Make It, Who Can?”But should we be so surprised? The … Continue reading

Bridget Jones Roars Back With Her Baby

There’s nothing quite like catching up with an old friend. It gives us an opportunity to take stock, while reveling in the company of someone who knows us, warts and all, and still cheers for us anyway. In many ways, that’s what “Bridget Jones’ Baby” is: an opportunity to see how our old friend Bridge … Continue reading