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Let’s Talk About Sex (Ed)

This is a discussion we need to have (wikipedia.com).   Let’s talk about sex. Specifically, let’s talk about Sex Ed. As someone who’s been researching infertility in the Jewish community, my concern is not the typical public debate over abstinence education. No, it’s that Sex Ed in the United States focuses almost entirely on pregnancy prevention. … Continue reading

5 Ways to Help Jews on Fertility Journeys

Fertility can be complicated, but the community can help (healthimpactnews.com).   Jewish continuity is the idee fixe of American Jewish communal discussions. We talk about it. All. The. Time. We debate whether the best route forward is investing in Jewish camp, Jewish day school, or Birthright trips. Interestingly, these discussions typically don’t touch upon Jewish fertility. Yet, they should, because it is … Continue reading

On Not Really Being Ready for Baby #3

                             Your baby’s ready, whether or not you are (IHeartPears.Blogspot.com)!   “So, are you ready?” is the question du jour—or however you say “of the month” in French. After eight months of being largely distracted by my daily routine with daughters #1 and #2, … Continue reading

6 Reasons Millennials Should Bring On The Babies Like Bristol Palin

If you haven’t yet heard, Bristol Palin is pregnant with her third child. More revealing than that happy news though, has been some of the snarky reactions it’s inspired in the media and on Twitter. CBS News briefly shared the news of baby number three before rehashing a litany of largely embarrassing Bristol news since 2008 (a.k.a., high … Continue reading

The Pain of Infertility in the Jewish Community

Americans speak openly about breast cancer and domestic violence — subjects that were taboo in recent memory — but infertility remains relatively hush-hush. Meanwhile, fertility struggles increase, as more Americans, including American Jews, delay parenthood. For some, that reflects a conscious choice to delay parenthood into their 30s, or even their 40s, as they pursue … Continue reading

Go Ahead, Congratulate the Newly Engaged!

Writing in Redbook magazine, Ashley Mateo recently pronounced, “I absolutely hate wishing people congratulations on their engagement, and I won’t do it anymore.” It’s a free country. Ms. Mateo, like everyone else, is entitled to speak (or not speak) as she likes. But let’s run through some of her objections to “congratulations,” a word most people would consider … Continue reading

We’re Still Waiting For A Better Memoir About Infertility

We have become a nation of oversharers. And yet, even in the Era of TMI, it’s rare for women—or couples—to broadcast their struggles with infertility. In this regard, the publishing world largely mimics real life. If you’ve been searching for a book that personalizes the excruciating pain of infertility or repeated pregnancy loss, you’ve likely … Continue reading

Why Do So Many People Wish I Was Pregnant with a Boy?

In an atomized and impersonal city, nothing motivates strangers to approach and talk to you quite like a pregnant belly. What’s more interesting is what people then say. Here in cosmopolitan DC, I fully expected to get an (unsolicited) earful about this child being one too many. For while it’s not the case at our … Continue reading

Finding Personal and Jewish Significance in ‘This is Us’

In watching the heart-wrenching pilot for NBC’s This is Us, I connected with Mandy Moore’s Rebecca Pearson. Hugely pregnant with triplets, Rebecca was a woman whose life is on the verge of transformation. I identified with Rebecca as a wife and mother, who also happens to be pregnant with my own third child. However, since then, … Continue reading

Words of Wisdom on Adoption

Are you considering adoption or fostering (potentially leading to adoption)? If you’re curious but don’t know where to start, here’s some collective wisdom from various experts I’ve interviewed in the course of researching adoption: Former Family Law Attorney in Florida Be persistent. Be an advocate for yourself. Know your rights. It’s well worth spending money … Continue reading