O Tannenbaum, O Tannenbaum

My Jewish Daughter’s First Christmas What makes this Christmas different from all other Christmases? For the first time, I have had to explain my typically unspoken understanding that this all-encompassing holiday is not ours. Whenever my 7-month-old daughter, Lila, and I take walks, I name and explain everything we see. In recent weeks, that has … Continue reading

Mama Bears Prefer Kvelling

It’s Amazing What Happens When You’re Nice to My Kid “If someone is nice to your child, you can forgive a lot,” my mother said. Seven months into motherhood, I consider that the ultimate truism. If Lila and I meet you, this mother’s Jewish eyes may be smiling, but they’ll also be watching you like … Continue reading

No Apologies

Apologies are seductive. Especially for a new mother, who finds her world suddenly spinning beyond her control, apologies are incredibly appealing. The trouble is that a new mother can also find herself always apologizing. Everything is a first, and nothing goes as she expected. Does she blame herself? And should she? New mothers are barraged … Continue reading