What’s A Breastfeeding Mom To Wear To Synagogue?

Designers need to start keeping real women in mind when designing our clothes (today.com).   Last fall, Project Runway’s Tim Gunn took fashion designers to task for not designing clothes with non-model American women in mind. Gunn focused on unrepresentative sizing, but as I try to decide what to wear to my third daughter’s baby … Continue reading

Why You Should Consider Starting Your Family Earlier Than You’re Planning

Embrace pregnancy, embrace glamour and posterity (dailymail.co.uk). This is part four of my series on fertility challenges within the American Jewish community that started in the now shuttered altFem magazine. It is also the second part of my deeper dive into options available to younger Jews (high school and college students, in particular), who may … Continue reading

Jewish Conservative Women, In Their Own Words

The original Iron Lady (huffingtonpost.com).   I’d like to tell you a story. Picture it, a classroom in Harvard’s Kennedy School, early 2008: I often find myself in classes hearing my political party and its members caricatured. Last year, a professor informed one of my classes that Mike Huckabee would be my party’s nominee, because … Continue reading

SNL Trashes Ivanka For Taking The High Road And Supporting Her Father

Liberals wish Ivanka more like Patti Davis, less like Chelsea Clinton (Politico.com). As women, never in history have we had more opportunities. We can be mothers, career women, or some combination of the two. We can personalize what it means to live our best lives (thanks, Oprah!) and expect to be respected for it. (Or at least, … Continue reading

We Shouldn’t Only Care About Anti-Semitism When Trump Is President

The scene at the JCC in Albany, New York, after a bomb threat was called in (Slate.com).   What a messed up world we live in. New York-based law enforcement has now identified Juan Thompson as the man allegedly responsible for eight of the 100-plus calls targeting Jewish institutions nationwide this year. Bravo, law enforcement. You’re doing … Continue reading

5 Ways to Help Jews on Fertility Journeys

Fertility can be complicated, but the community can help (healthimpactnews.com).   Jewish continuity is the idee fixe of American Jewish communal discussions. We talk about it. All. The. Time. We debate whether the best route forward is investing in Jewish camp, Jewish day school, or Birthright trips. Interestingly, these discussions typically don’t touch upon Jewish fertility. Yet, they should, because it is … Continue reading

The Pain of Infertility in the Jewish Community

Americans speak openly about breast cancer and domestic violence — subjects that were taboo in recent memory — but infertility remains relatively hush-hush. Meanwhile, fertility struggles increase, as more Americans, including American Jews, delay parenthood. For some, that reflects a conscious choice to delay parenthood into their 30s, or even their 40s, as they pursue … Continue reading

Finding Personal and Jewish Significance in ‘This is Us’

In watching the heart-wrenching pilot for NBC’s This is Us, I connected with Mandy Moore’s Rebecca Pearson. Hugely pregnant with triplets, Rebecca was a woman whose life is on the verge of transformation. I identified with Rebecca as a wife and mother, who also happens to be pregnant with my own third child. However, since then, … Continue reading

Words of Wisdom on Adoption

Are you considering adoption or fostering (potentially leading to adoption)? If you’re curious but don’t know where to start, here’s some collective wisdom from various experts I’ve interviewed in the course of researching adoption: Former Family Law Attorney in Florida Be persistent. Be an advocate for yourself. Know your rights. It’s well worth spending money … Continue reading

Jewish Adoption Embraces the World

What does a Jew look like? Woody Allen famously played with stereotypes in Hannah and Her Sisters, when his secular character imagined himself through others’ eyes, complete with a black hat and beard. Of course, there has never been one right answer to that question.  The American Jewish community has become ever more varied, as intermarriage, conversion … Continue reading