Why You Should Consider Starting Your Family Earlier Than You’re Planning

Embrace pregnancy, embrace glamour and posterity (dailymail.co.uk). This is part four of my series on fertility challenges within the American Jewish community that started in the now shuttered altFem magazine. It is also the second part of my deeper dive into options available to younger Jews (high school and college students, in particular), who may … Continue reading

Second Lady Karen Pence Opens Up About Her Struggles With Infertility

The Vice President and Mrs. Pence pose with their family at an inaugural ball (Zimbio.com). For one in eight American couples, having a baby is anything but straightforward, and that can become an incredibly isolating experience. Infertility remains stigmatized, so affected adults are unlikely to speak openly about their difficulties, even with family and friends. These are … Continue reading

5 Ways to Help Jews on Fertility Journeys

Fertility can be complicated, but the community can help (healthimpactnews.com).   Jewish continuity is the idee fixe of American Jewish communal discussions. We talk about it. All. The. Time. We debate whether the best route forward is investing in Jewish camp, Jewish day school, or Birthright trips. Interestingly, these discussions typically don’t touch upon Jewish fertility. Yet, they should, because it is … Continue reading

The Pain of Infertility in the Jewish Community

Americans speak openly about breast cancer and domestic violence — subjects that were taboo in recent memory — but infertility remains relatively hush-hush. Meanwhile, fertility struggles increase, as more Americans, including American Jews, delay parenthood. For some, that reflects a conscious choice to delay parenthood into their 30s, or even their 40s, as they pursue … Continue reading

We’re Still Waiting For A Better Memoir About Infertility

We have become a nation of oversharers. And yet, even in the Era of TMI, it’s rare for women—or couples—to broadcast their struggles with infertility. In this regard, the publishing world largely mimics real life. If you’ve been searching for a book that personalizes the excruciating pain of infertility or repeated pregnancy loss, you’ve likely … Continue reading

A Rosh Hashanah Plea for More Conversation About Infertility

She laughed. When our matriarch Sarah heard that she would become a mother within the next year, she laughed. And who wouldn’t? The whole notion seemed drawn from the realm of fantasy. After all, Sarah was already 90-years-old. But as G-d rhetorically asks Abraham in Genesis 18:13, “Is anything beyond Hashem?” Pregnancy and (safe) childbirth … Continue reading

Adoption in the Jewish Community

When altFem first asked to write about adoption in the Jewish community, I had no idea how massive a topic it would be, how many people would come forward to share their personal stories, nor what a rich — and complex — story this would become. For obvious reasons, adoption is an intensely personal subject … Continue reading

Family Is On Fleek

Parenthood is having a cultural moment. It’s striking, because in our materially oriented society, we’ve recently seen a number of celebrities speak out publicly not only about the joy of children, but also acknowledging that their professionally successful lives feel incomplete without children. Indeed, it has become cool to publicly praise family. Should we credit … Continue reading

Fertility Gets The Hollywood Treatment

We’ve all heard about suffering for beauty. What about suffering for a baby? Pregnancy is no walk in the park, but it’s typically easier to conceive a baby naturally earlier than via technology later. According to the Fertility Authority website, “Women undergoing infertility treatment report the same level of stress, anxiety, and depression as women … Continue reading