This Progressive 1970s Kids Album Sounds Reactionary Now, But Should It?

Music important to your past has a way of finding your present. Feeling suddenly nostalgic recently, I told my daughters I’d play them one of my favorite childhood records. So, with Spotify’s help, I streamed “Free to Be…You and Me,” an album I haven’t heard in 30 years. The album came out in 1972 as a … Continue reading

The Pain of Infertility in the Jewish Community

Americans speak openly about breast cancer and domestic violence — subjects that were taboo in recent memory — but infertility remains relatively hush-hush. Meanwhile, fertility struggles increase, as more Americans, including American Jews, delay parenthood. For some, that reflects a conscious choice to delay parenthood into their 30s, or even their 40s, as they pursue … Continue reading

We’re Still Waiting For A Better Memoir About Infertility

We have become a nation of oversharers. And yet, even in the Era of TMI, it’s rare for women—or couples—to broadcast their struggles with infertility. In this regard, the publishing world largely mimics real life. If you’ve been searching for a book that personalizes the excruciating pain of infertility or repeated pregnancy loss, you’ve likely … Continue reading

Words of Wisdom on Adoption

Are you considering adoption or fostering (potentially leading to adoption)? If you’re curious but don’t know where to start, here’s some collective wisdom from various experts I’ve interviewed in the course of researching adoption: Former Family Law Attorney in Florida Be persistent. Be an advocate for yourself. Know your rights. It’s well worth spending money … Continue reading

If Parental Leave Matters, So Do Parents

Parenting is a puzzle. It’s one that every parent pieces together differently, and there’s often no one right answer. However, there are certain premises elemental to any parenting discussion; if all sides can’t accept them, we can’t have an honest debate about parenting, or the public policies that affect it. I thought of this while … Continue reading

J.K. Simmons Wants You to Call Your Mom

Every Oscars broadcast needs some surprises. Otherwise, why would anyone watch? This year, it was J.K. Simmons (who I will always think of as Juno’s dad) who brought the applause-worthy, relatable message. The Best Supporting Actor Oscar winner for Whiplash, Simmons offered refreshing remarks in his acceptance speech this past weekend: After thanking his wife and praising his kids, he … Continue reading

Fertility Gets The Hollywood Treatment

We’ve all heard about suffering for beauty. What about suffering for a baby? Pregnancy is no walk in the park, but it’s typically easier to conceive a baby naturally earlier than via technology later. According to the Fertility Authority website, “Women undergoing infertility treatment report the same level of stress, anxiety, and depression as women … Continue reading

Do You Hate Your Children?

Many adults can’t stand kids. The tragic thing is that some of them are already parents. In honor of Mother’s Day, feminist website Jezebel scoured anonymous social media site Whisper for posts from parents who regret procreating.  One parent shares, “I love my kids so much . . . but I regret having them every … Continue reading

Tweens and Sex: Parenting is Not a Spectator Sport

Is there anything more horrifying than hearing 11-year old girls discuss oral sex? If you’re the parent of a young girl, as I am, that would be a definite no. In Newsweek’s cover story, “Sex and the Single Tween,” Abigail Jones (full disclosure: my old editor at The Jewish Daily Forward) catalogs countless examples of … Continue reading

Rosh Hashanah Resolution: A Wish for the Community

For 5774, I resolve to be better about going to bed early and always getting enough sleep. When I’m well rested, everything seems to fall into place. But when I’m underslept, I’m less patient and less likely to be the person – and parent – I aspire to be. I’d also like to offer a … Continue reading