Moms Under Pressure: A Review of Erica Komisar’s Being There

Psychoanalyst Erica Komisar’s Being There: Why Prioritizing Mothering in the First Three Years Matters has something to aggravate all sorts of parents—working moms, stay-at-home moms, stay-at-home dads, parents with multiple children—and it’s truly a shame. As a stay-at-home mother with a fairly traditional worldview, I initially assumed this book would be geared toward women like … Continue reading

When Women Are Ready to Opt Back In

Like a romantic-comedy that closes with a wedding and skips the ensuing marriage, media coverage of women who “opt out” of the workforce often ends with that decision. But who are these women, what fuels that decision, and what happens after it’s made? In 2014, the Pew Research Center reported: “About one-in-10 mothers with a Master’s … Continue reading

Alicia Florrick Of ‘The Good Wife’ Evolves Toward Motherhood

Alicia Florrick has been a good wife. While her post-scandal marriage has been complicated, flawed, and largely unfulfilling on an emotional level, she’s stuck it out for the sake of her kids and her career. We most often watch Alicia in her roles as litigator, law firm boss, political candidate, the governor’s wife, or woman … Continue reading

(Most) Married Mothers Want Balance

Online craft marketplace Etsy, which is powered primarily by women, joined the Nasdaq exchange on April 16. Market watchers greeted its early success with surprise—which speaks volumes about how they, as well as major media outlets and government officials, think about women. However, as the market launch demonstrated, some widely held assumptions, like mothers’ work-related preferences, are based … Continue reading

Please Don’t Call Me a “Homemaker”

Ester Bloom, co-editor of the Billfold, opens “Reclaiming ‘Homemaker,’” her puzzling Slate article, by asserting: “Everyone agrees: The term ‘stay-at-home mom’ is no good.” Bloom offers no proof, or even an explanation of the mythical “everyone,” but I can confirm that it does not include me. Bloom may hope to start a cultural movement, reclaiming … Continue reading

Even Betty on “Mad Men” Wants to be a Loved Mom

“Do you think I’m a good mother?” Betty asks second husband Henry Francis, as she cuddles in bed with sleeping Gene, her youngest child. “Of course,” he reassures her. Henry is a savvy politico by day and charms his wife by night. After all, who thinks Betty Francis is a good mother? This is a … Continue reading

TV Moms Can’t Have It All Either

We watch TV to escape. Yet sometimes, TV writers borrow from reality, and that can be surprisingly satisfying because it speaks directly to challenges in our own lives. In recent episodes of Parenthood and Grey’s Anatomy, both Julia Braverman-Graham and Meredith Grey have struggled with the realities of modern motherhood, and that pesky question about whether … Continue reading