The Strange Things Strangers Say To Pregnant Women

With this pregnancy, as with my first, I’ve found that there is no need to wonder what strangers are thinking. They regularly share their thoughts unprompted, those thoughts are often rather strange, and they are typically about three things: size, gender, and timing. 1. My Size. When I was about 6 months pregnant, I attended … Continue reading

Flying Solo + Baby

Flying Solo With Baby: One Mom’s Travel Adventure I’ve always considered it a pain to travel. And yet, flying by myself exemplifies simplicity, when I consider how much more complicated it is to fly as a lone adult . . . with a baby in tow. Last winter, 8-month-old Lila and I decided to visit … Continue reading

Smiles are Multilingual

My Baby is a Better World Traveler Than Me       Traveling overseas is intimidating. And I say this as someone whose last several international destinations have included Ghana, India, and South Africa. I hadn’t ventured abroad since early 2010, for a fairly obvious and adorable reason. But my husband recently learned that he needed to spend … Continue reading

Bigger Kids, Bigger Problems

Grandmothers, You’re Scaring Me Grandmothers and more experienced mothers: You’re starting to scare me. I appreciate the constant cooing over my little girl, I do. But the nostalgia you regularly voice is worrisome. My year-old daughter, Lila, and I are regularly stopped by women who identify themselves as having “older” or “grown” children, and most … Continue reading

Pretty in Pink (and Purple)

My Baby Girl Wears Pink, So What? I wasn’t one of those people who wanted to wait until the day my baby was born to find out the gender. So the day Lila was born was exhilarating–and exhausting–but the birth drama never included the doctor’s calling out, “It’s a Girl!” The delivering doctor didn’t need … Continue reading

Strangers Are My New Best Friends

How a New Baby Turns Strangers Into Friends Years ago, a matchmaker told me, “A stranger is just a friend you’ve yet to meet.” I laughed, finding the sentiment corny. After all, as a native New Yorker I’d been raised with the opposite philosophy. My father had warned: “If a stranger talks to you, run … Continue reading

Strange(rs’) Impatience

Strangers Getting Personal If I were a conspiracy theorist, I might think that our daughter’s grandmothers were up to something. After all, how many random Washingtonians can ask me when Baby #2 is due? To be clear, I’m not pregnant. And that’s precisely the point. I am the non-pregnant-looking mother of a 9-month old-bundle of … Continue reading