Moms Under Pressure: A Review of Erica Komisar’s Being There

Psychoanalyst Erica Komisar’s Being There: Why Prioritizing Mothering in the First Three Years Matters has something to aggravate all sorts of parents—working moms, stay-at-home moms, stay-at-home dads, parents with multiple children—and it’s truly a shame. As a stay-at-home mother with a fairly traditional worldview, I initially assumed this book would be geared toward women like … Continue reading

When Women Are Ready to Opt Back In

Like a romantic-comedy that closes with a wedding and skips the ensuing marriage, media coverage of women who “opt out” of the workforce often ends with that decision. But who are these women, what fuels that decision, and what happens after it’s made? In 2014, the Pew Research Center reported: “About one-in-10 mothers with a Master’s … Continue reading

Universal Child Care? This Work-at-Home Mom Says, No Thanks!

This week, The New York Times’ editorial staff ran yet another piece in support of Hillary Clinton’s child care proposal. Only, in the latest iteration, Brittany Bronson, an English instructor at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas, complains that Clinton’s proposal to expand child care and cap costs at 10 percent of household income doesn’t go far enough. … Continue reading

Alicia Florrick Of ‘The Good Wife’ Evolves Toward Motherhood

Alicia Florrick has been a good wife. While her post-scandal marriage has been complicated, flawed, and largely unfulfilling on an emotional level, she’s stuck it out for the sake of her kids and her career. We most often watch Alicia in her roles as litigator, law firm boss, political candidate, the governor’s wife, or woman … Continue reading

Don’t Compartmentalize Kids

The cover of the June issue of Australian Elle magazine tells a powerful tale. We see model Nicole Trunfio nursing her young son and enjoying the special coziness that mothers regularly share with their infants. However, the backstory is even better. Unlike last year’s Glamour shots of Olivia Wilde nursing her son, the cover that Australian subscribers will see apparently wasn’t planned. According … Continue reading

If Parental Leave Matters, So Do Parents

Parenting is a puzzle. It’s one that every parent pieces together differently, and there’s often no one right answer. However, there are certain premises elemental to any parenting discussion; if all sides can’t accept them, we can’t have an honest debate about parenting, or the public policies that affect it. I thought of this while … Continue reading

(Most) Married Mothers Want Balance

Online craft marketplace Etsy, which is powered primarily by women, joined the Nasdaq exchange on April 16. Market watchers greeted its early success with surprise—which speaks volumes about how they, as well as major media outlets and government officials, think about women. However, as the market launch demonstrated, some widely held assumptions, like mothers’ work-related preferences, are based … Continue reading

Why Do We Selectively Hate Hollywood Moms?

Why do journalists and fans react so differently to various actresses’ comments about motherhood? Recent feedback to four stars offers a study in contrasts: Hayden Panettiere versus Kirsten Dunst, and Emma Thompson versus Felicity Huffman. Take Hayden Panettiere, for starters. The 24-year-old Nashville star foreshadowed her recent pregnancy news in a May 2013 Glamour magazine … Continue reading

Sex Ed: 5 Things Masters of Sex Teaches Us About the ’50s

Were the ‘50s a golden age of robust economics and strong families, or the end of an incredibly repressive era in American history (for everyone who wasn’t a white man)? Conservatives and liberals regularly recall the decade in starkly different terms. Showtime’s Golden-globe nominated series Masters of Sex offers its own portrayal of the era, … Continue reading

TV Moms Can’t Have It All Either

We watch TV to escape. Yet sometimes, TV writers borrow from reality, and that can be surprisingly satisfying because it speaks directly to challenges in our own lives. In recent episodes of Parenthood and Grey’s Anatomy, both Julia Braverman-Graham and Meredith Grey have struggled with the realities of modern motherhood, and that pesky question about whether … Continue reading